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[dani_the_girl]

My mother is now suggesting that I have gastric banding surgery. Because oh god I am so fat and horrible.

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[white_hart]

Without wishing to cast aspersions on your mother, in this case she is quite clearly mental. *Hugs*

[dani_the_girl]

Thank you. Right now, I am happy to cast aspersions on her, damnit! I appreciate having you there to tell this stuff to though.

[ahlai.livejournal.com]

Ouch ::hugs::

[dani_the_girl]

Thank you. Parents, eh?

[ahlai.livejournal.com]

Yup, right up there with exes on the doofus scale :P

[synecdochic]

I have no problems casting aspersions on your mother: fuck her, she's got no fucking clue. You're gorgeous.

If you want to lose weight -- not if your mother wants you to lose weight -- surgery is the last fucking resort. The first step would be to go to your doctor and get a full hormone panel workup and a glucose tolerance test done to make sure that your body processes food properly, because I have fed you and hosted you for extended periods of time (and if anything, you might need to be eating more than you do) and I'd wager money that any weight you gain or retain has to do with insulin resistance and nothing at all to do with overindulgence et al -- and that's not something that (stupid, fucking dangerous, etc, etc) surgery can even touch.

[dani_the_girl]

Mostly, I am happy with my weight. I think I look good and I get that reaction from others. But it's the one thing in my life that is not societally validated (oh woe, I know, but bear with me) so it's easy to knock me off my opinion into wondering whether I should be taking this stuff seriously. Which is where it helps so much for people to say this stuff to me!

[synecdochic]

It's always worth getting a check-up (if only because if it is insulin resistance, that should be treated before it turns into something more serious), but no, babe, you are fuckin' hot. <3

[the-summoning-d.livejournal.com]

o.0 Oh, love *hugs*
*glares* BAD mother! Stop that!

[dani_the_girl]

I despair of ever getting her on board with the idea that while I may be above the ideal weight, I actually don't hate my body!

[the-summoning-d.livejournal.com]

I have no idea what you look like, but if you're happy with it then screw everyone else!

[adina-atl.livejournal.com]

That is so fucking wrong that I have no words for it.

[dani_the_girl]

Yeah, pretty much my reaction. I just made fish faces and didn't know what to say. Fortunately this was in email so I didn't have to come up with anything right off!